1. Presume competence. This applies to people with physical and/or mental disabilities. Never assume that a disabled person isn’t cognizant of their surroundings.
2. Respect their autonomy. Always ask if a disabled person needs help. If they decline help, don’t force your “help” on them.
3. Don’t ask invasive questions. This goes twice for trans people with disabilities. For example, don’t ask how a physically disabled person goes to the bathroom. If you wouldn’t like it if someone asked you a particular question, chances are LGBTQ people with disabilities wouldn’t like it either.
4. Include accessibility when you talk about having sex. First and foremost, as is with any sexual relationship: always and continually ask for consent. Second, if your partner has a sensory processing disorder or is Autistic, take their sensory issues into account. Ask what their sensory issues are before having sex and explain, in detail, what you are planning to do. Third, if, at any time before or during sex, your partner is uncomfortable with continuing, stop.
5. Don’t presume that a disabled person is straight/nonsexual/cisgender. Too often, people assume that disabled people are straight/nonsexual/cisgender. There is nothing wrong with identifying this way, but you should never make assumptions about someone else’s identity.
I’m working on applying for an industrial design program at a college. My focus is on creating tools that can help assist disabled folks by increasing ease of access to…life. So what I’m looking to find out is whether folks have thought “If only ____ existed…” and what that ____ was, or what you were trying to do when you thought that. OR the things you consistently have trouble doing in the world, where some kind of object could assist in the process.
Also! Please boost if you can?
boosting myself because i think i posted it at an awkward time